Midlife Struggles…

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Are you worn out?  Sick and tired of being sick and tired?  I hear ya, sister! This morning I was lying in bed and praying about the day, and I was considering my daily struggles.  Nothing profound, mind you. Simply pondering all the things that continue to drain me emotionally, physically, and mentally.  Have you been there?

As a middle-aged woman, I am keenly aware of this biological clock that’s ticking.  Not the one that you hear in your 20’s or 30’s. This one is the one that nags about my fitness level (or lack thereof), goals that seem just out of reach for my life, the well being of my children and marriage…  Or simple things like… Why are my pants too tight? My hair looks like cotton candy. Why is it sooooooo cold in here??? I think you get my drift.

Even though these, let’s call them struggles, exist.  It doesn’t mean they are all bad… Or, even negative. Struggle can be a good thing.  Right? It indicates that we are still in the fight! We haven’t given up! In fact, it is proof that we are invested in the things that matter the most to us in this life.  It is the evidence that we continue to strive to move forward, even if it is at an excruciatingly slow pace!

Also, these struggles can provide clarity for us.  If we stop and take the time to pray about these things in our lives, they can hold valuable information for us.  We need to take a few minutes to identify what these things are. Maybe even name them. What is causing me concern?  Is it a “real” concern, or simply one that I continue to tell myself, even though it could be totally unfounded. What truly are some of the outcomes for the situations?  Are they actually as extreme as I’ve led myself to believe? What direction do I need to move in now that you’ve taken some time to assess the problem? So, struggles can give direction in a lot of situations.

Lastly, this tug-of-war that goes on inside of us might be a signal that we need to let go of whatever it is.  After true consideration, is it worth all the time and energy we are spending on it? Could our time be spent more constructively on other things that will truly make a difference in our lives or the lives of others?  Sometimes I know I tend to hold on to these conflicts tightly. I don’t want to lay them down. I care too much. It matters too much. Yet, what I’ve found a lot of times is that it’s out of my control. I need to lay it down.  Relinquish that struggle to God. I know. That is so easy to say, but so hard to do, right?

My challenge to you and myself today is this…  Identify one issue you continue to struggle with.  Decide how you are going to handle it. Acknowledge it for what it truly is, allow it to give us some direction, or lay it down… 

Midlife Mama’s, there is so much more we could say here.  But, I want to stop and let you weigh in on the matter…. If you have some constructive thoughts on this topic, please comment below!

Happy Wednesday friends!

CindyH

Cindy Hannam

Midlife Blogger / Everyday Fashion / Beauty Lover / Healthy Living

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4 Comments

  1. 10.24.19
    Sonia Ness said:

    I needed to read this. I am there with you and all the others like us. Thank you Cindy! ?

    • 10.24.19
      Cindyh said:

      Thank you Sonia! And that you for the feedback!

  2. 11.12.19
    Marie said:

    So happy to discover your blog! Midlife has its own challenges for sure. Coming up on a new year is a great time to consider what I need to keep and what I need to lay down!

  3. 11.14.19

    I can certainly relate to the ticking biological clock. I think I actually have more on my mind in midlife than I did when my kids were young. I’ve got more time to think, bigger fears, and the realization that life is short. It’s a struggle to keep focused and stay positive but worth the fight. In many ways this is the best time of life too! Paradoxes! I’m a Co host of Midlife Matters Podcast.